SDVoyager Feature: Lynn Waldman on Collaborative Divorce

Collaborative divorce is featured in a new profile Q&A with Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego board president Lynn Waldman on SDVoyager.com, a platform whose mission statement aligns with our own in many ways: “Our mission is build a platform that fosters collaboration and support for small businesses, independent artists and entrepreneurs, local institutions and those that make our city interesting.  We want to change the way people spend their money – rather than spending it with the big, cookie-cutter corporations we want them to spend their money with the independent, creative, local entrepreneurs, small businesses and artists.”

Lynn answered questions about the natural of Collaborative Divorce and its many benefits for families.

“Some of our proudest moments include when couples come together and are able to make decisions about how they wish to proceed with their divorce; they determine how to share assets and their children,” said Waldman. “With coaching, clients are supported in communicating with one another. Clients may find themselves at an impasse. Through the support of their attorney and coach, they are able to look more deeply at their fears and consider the fears of their spouse, often allowing for movement on a previously intractable issue. Couples who could not have discussions previously, are now able to make proposals and talk about options; they learn to listen, they feel validated as they are heard by their soon to be ex-spouse, and by their team of professionals.”

Read the entire Q&A feature at SDVoyager.com.

 

Lynn Waldman, LCSW named President of Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego

Media Contact: Gayle Lynn Falkenthal, APR, Fellow PRSA, 619-997-2495 / glf@san.rr.com

(SAN DIEGO) – Lynn Waldman, LCSW, Therapist, Divorce Coach, and Child Specialist, has been named President of the Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego for the 2018 term. Waldman is in private practice with offices in Carmel Valley and Hillcrest.

Lynn Waldman, LCSW

Founded in 2010, members of the Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego work together to learn, practice, and promote Collaborative Practice for problem solving and the peaceful resolution of family law issues, with an eye toward preserving the emotional, as well as the financial, assets of the family. Its goal is to transform the resolution of family law issues through respectful, Collaborative processes that protect the integrity and health of family relationships and eliminate the need for families to resort to litigation.

Waldman’s experience as a therapist, divorce coach and child specialist include working with a diverse population of individuals, parents and families for 27 years. She offers clients the opportunity to be heard and understood while working through difficult divorce negotiations and co-parenting disagreements.

For eight years, Waldman held a position with the Superior Court of California, County of San Diego, Family Court Services, as a Mediator and Child Custody Recommending Counselor, making recommendations to court when parents could not agree upon a parenting plan. Her goal was to build bridges between parents and assist them in improving their co-parenting relationship. During her tenure with Family Court Services, she also served as the President of the Family Court Counselor’s Association, a professional bargaining unit of 45 members. Previously, Waldman was a Program Manager with Child Welfare Services where she worked for 13 years.

Waldman became a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in 1994, and holds a masters degree in Social Work from Florida State University. She is member of the California Society for Clinical Social Work and has been a member of the National Association of Social Workers since 1989.

“The Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego is excited to announce our new Board, and we are looking forward to serving the San Diego community in 2018,” said Waldman.

“The Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego offers a client driven process for divorce. Our Collaborative Divorce teams offer support to clients and families, financially, legally and emotionally throughout the divorce, while clients maintain control over decision-making, valuable family relationships and connections.

“Our goal is to educate the community about their options in divorce through our monthly Divorce Options workshop, while also connecting with professionals, growing our membership and empowering families in crisis,” said Waldman.

Joining Waldman to form the 2018 Board of Directors are:

  • Meredith Lewis, President-Elect
  • Leslie Ryland, Secretary
  • Ginita Wall, Treasurer
  • Justin Reckers, Past President
  • Tina Mears, Member at Large
  • Shawn Skillin, Member at Large

About the Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego

CFLG San Diego’s members work together to learn, practice, and promote collaborative processes for problem solving and the peaceful resolution of family law issues, with an eye toward preserving the emotional, as well as the financial assets of the family. Its goal is to transform the resolution of family law issues through respectful, collaborative processes that protect the integrity and health of family relationships and eliminate the need for families to resort to litigation.

CFLG is online at www.collaborativefamilylawsandiego.com, and LinkedIn at http://bit.ly/LinkedIn-CFLGSanDiego

Your Pre-Divorce Holiday Season Coping Guide

There are many unanswered questions that you may face in the New Year, but for now coping with the reality is a challenge.

There are many unanswered questions that you may face in the New Year, but for now coping with the reality is a challenge.

by Lynn Waldman, LCSW

Have you been facing this holiday season with a mix of emotions; on one hand, hoping things will get better in your relationship, while at the same time dreading another holiday feeling stuck, empty, alone and wondering why you stay?

Suppose part of you has decided you are going to leave your marriage, but you need to get

Lynn Waldman, LCSW

Lynn Waldman, LCSW

through this holiday season for yourself and for the sake of your children. There are many unanswered questions that you may face in the New Year, but for now coping with the reality is a challenge. Staying calm in front of family, friends and children may be one of your goals.

Clients often struggle with how to make the best of things until they can leave their relationship. One coping strategy that works for clients begins with letting go of expectations. Letting go of hoping things will change or get better or that you will feel differently. Sometimes it is a relief to just accept things as they are. With acceptance comes a willingness to let things unfold and be as they are, as opposed to a sense of willfulness and of trying to change things we have no control over. To feel the willingness of accepting things as they are, try sitting with your arms slightly outstretched, palms up, take a breath, and repeat to yourself, “it is what it is.”

Another coping strategy is to check into your thoughts. When we have difficult feelings, it is often due to a difficult thought lurking somewhere in our minds. We may not even be aware of the difficult thought. With the difficult thoughts and feelings we often engage in behaviors we may regret. Try and identify those thoughts and feelings. Naming feelings often releases us from the overwhelm. Also, ask yourself, “what else may be true besides my difficult thought?” Focus on the facts of the situation, and if you need more information, seek out professionals who may be able to help. Remember, just because we have a thought or a worry, does not mean it is true.

In going forward with your divorce, the Collaborative process is one that takes into consideration, not only the legal and financial aspects of your marriage, but also your emotions and the emotions of your family. A Collaborative divorce coach offers assistance with coping skills to help you manage through the transition of divorce while focusing on the best resolution for everyone.

While this holiday season may be the last you will spend under the same roof with your spouse and co-parent, you certainly will have many more holiday seasons to come. Making the best of this season may be the best gift you can give yourself and your children this year.