“Real Talk San Diego” Radio Features Collaborative Divorce on July 21

Certified Family Law Specialist Hildy Fentin, member and past president of the Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego, will talk about Collaboartive Divorce and other family law issues when she appears on the ESPN 1700 AM Radio program “Real Talk San Diego” with hosts Ryan White and Karen Kaseno on Thursday, July 21, at 1 p.m.

You can listen online on the Real Talk San Diego website.

Collaborative Divorce is the topic on Real Talk San Diego radio on ESPN 1700 AM on Thursday July 21, 1 pm. Real Talk San Diego airs weekdays from 10 a.m.-12 noon and 1 – 2 p.m. on ESPN 1700 AM. The show features community business leaders and entrepreneurs sharing their insights and opinions on business, finance, real estate, political and lifestyle related topics that impact our communities. Its mission is to educate and inform the listening audience by constantly challenging the national media’s sweeping generalizations and fear-based journalism so its listeners can make informed decisions about “the business of life” in America’s Finest City.

Anna Addleman Recognized as 2016 San Diego Business Leader

The San Diego Transcript named Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego member Anna Addleman to its 2016 "40 Under 40" business professionals list. Forensic Accountant Collaborative Divorce

Anna Addleman, CPA, CDFA, CFF, CFE, immediate past president and board member of the Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego, was named to the 2016 “40 Under 40” List of leading business professionals in San Diego by the San Diego Transcript newspaper.

A San Diego tradition, this prestigious list includes legal, financial, managerial, and nonprofit leaders.

Congratulations to immediate past president Anna Addleman for being named to the 2016 "40 Under 40" Business Professionals list by the San Diego Transcript newspaper.

Congratulations to immediate past president Anna Addleman for being named to the 2016 “40 Under 40” Business Professionals list by the San Diego Transcript newspaper.

Anna Addleman is the Managing Director and Founder of Addleman & Associates. She has extensive experience providing damage analysis, business consulting, and accounting services to clients involved in dispute resolution, business management and tax matters, including divorce. Anna was recognized by the Transcript for her work as a proponent of the Collaborative approach to divorce, and her leadership and contributions to the Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego.

Congratulations to Anna for this well-deserved recognition and for her ongoing advocacy for the Collaborative Process.

San Diego Osteopathic Physicians Learn About Collaborative Divorce

Cinda Jones (left) and Myra Fleischer address the San Diego Osteopathic Medical Association about Collaborative Divorce as an alternative to traditional litigated divorce.
Cinda Jones (left) and Myra Fleischer address the San Diego Osteopathic Medical Association about Collaborative Divorce as an alternative to traditional litigated divorce.

Cinda Jones (left) and Myra Fleischer address the San Diego Osteopathic Medical Association about Collaborative Divorce as an alternative to traditional litigated divorce.

Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego incoming 2016 president, attorney Myra Chack Fleischer, CFL-S, and board member Cinda Jones, CFP, CDFA, joined members of the San Diego Osteopathic Medical Association spoke at the group’s November meeting for a presentation on Collaborative Practice as an alternative to traditional litigated divorce.

The presentation provided an overview of the process, introduced the members of the divorce team and how they work together with the couple, and the advantages of Collaborative Divorce as a more holistic approach, including privacy protection and the emotional well-being of the family.

The Collaborative Family Law Group thanks all of the members who attended for their time, attention, and questions about the Collaborative Divorce process.

If you would like a presentation to your business, service, or social organization about Collaborative Divorce, please contact Gayle Falkenthal at gayle@falconvalleygroup.com or call 619-997-2495 to schedule. We look forward to speaking with you.

How the Divorce Process Might Change Your Standard of Living

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The decision to get divorced isn’t one people take lightly. Frequently it comes after months or even years of trying to make it work, and weighing your alternatives.

In this recent column from the Huffington Post, experts including Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego member Justin Reckers, Justin A. Reckers, CFP, CDFA and CEO of WellSpring Divorce Advisors shared the most important questions people need to ask themselves before moving forward and filing for divorce.

Read the column here.

If you have questions and need answers about your divorce options, contact the Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego at 858-472-4022 to learn about your options for a healthy, respectful divorce that preserves family relationships, especially with your children, and avoids the expense and pain of a litigated divorce by using the Collaborative Process.

Poway Scripps Ranch Rotary Club Learns about Collaborative Divorce

Thank you to Poway Scripps Ranch Rotary Club President Pauline Getz and all of the members for their hospitality.
Anna Addleman, CPA, CDFA, CFF, CFE; and Myra Fleischer, CFL-S, joined the Poway Scripps Ranch Rotary Club to talk about Collaborative Divorce.

Anna Addleman, CPA, CDFA, CFF, CFE; and Myra Fleischer, CFL-S, joined the Poway Scripps Ranch Rotary Club to talk about Collaborative Divorce.

Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego president Anna M. Addleman, CPA, CDFA, CFF, CFE; and attorney Myra Chack Fleischer, CFL-S, incoming 2016 President, joined members of the Poway Scripps Ranch Rotary Club at the September meeting for a presentation on Collaborative Practice as an alternative to traditional litigated divorce.

The presentation provided an overview of the process, introduced the members of the divorce team and how they work together with the couple, and the advantages of Collaborative Divorce including privacy protection and the emotional well-being of the family.

Anna Addleman explains the differences between Collaborative Divorce and traditional divorce litigation.

Anna Addleman explains the differences between Collaborative Divorce and traditional divorce litigation.

Thank you to Program Chairman Bill Stoudemire and President Pauline Getz for their warm welcome and to the entire club for its attention and hospitality.

If you would like a presentation to your business, service, or social organization about Collaborative Divorce, please contact Gayle Falkenthal at gayle@falconvalleygroup.com or call 619-997-2495 to schedule. We look forward to speaking with you.

Thank you to Poway Scripps Ranch Rotary Club President Pauline Getz and all of the members for their hospitality.

Thank you to Poway Scripps Ranch Rotary Club President Pauline Getz and all of the members for their hospitality.

Collaborative Divorce Featured on “The HR Insights Hour”

SD SHRMAttorney Frank Nageotte and Certified Financial Planner and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Cinda Jones of the Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego recently appeared on “The HR Insights Hour” with guest host Dr. Kathleen Bates. The discussion focused on the hidden costs and risks associated with employees going through divorce, and what organizations can do to mitigate the impact on the individual as well as the workplace.

“The HR Insights Hour” is a monthly radio show produced by the San Diego Chapter of the Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM).

Employee work performance suffers due to the stress and distractions of divorce. Human resources professionals can be tremendous allies in helping people find alternatives to time consuming and stressful litigation by informing them about options including Collaborative Divorce.

Listen to the program online here.

The Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego thanks San Diego SHRM for the opportunity to help education HR professionals about tools to help their employees achieve a healthy, respectful divorce.

Empower Yourself During Your Divorce

Debra N. Caliguri, family law and divorce attorney, Carlsbad

by Debra Caliguri, Law and Mediation Offices of Debra N. Caliguri

How many times have we all heard and even repeated the phrase “Ignorance is

Debra N. Caliguri, family law and divorce attorney, Carlsbad

Debra N. Caliguri

bliss”?  Itmay be popular, but ignorance is bliss is no credo to live by. One online dictionary defines “Ignorance is bliss” as “a term used to falsely justify apathy on the given subject in the form of a catchy cliche.”

In our knowledge-based society it is unlikely that choosing to be ignorant will bring you success in any of your life’s endeavors. This is particularly so when you are going through a major life transition like divorce.

Gone are the days when you and your spouse can afford to hire attorneys to take your case and leave the decision-making and thinking to the attorneys and judge to figure it out. Instead, you need to empower yourselves by gathering reliable information and becoming a savvy consumer of divorce-related services.

One of my clients recently concluded her divorce process in which I served as her Collaborative attorney. She and her husband had been married over 20 years, had children preparing for college, and with ten years or less to work before reaching retirement age, they were concerned with preserving their retirement funds.

Like many divorcing couples, both spouses felt wounded and found it difficult to trust the other. Their children were hurting as well, having witnessed the parental conflict over the years. The parties had disagreements over financial, legal, and even parenting issues.

The one thing they agreed upon: they wanted to stop the hurt, not only for their own sake, but for the sake of their children. This goal led them to seek alternatives to a knock-down, drag out fight in court.

The couple considered mediation, but decided they needed more information, advice, and support than the neutral mediator could provide. They found their way to Collaborative divorce after meeting with several attorneys and financial professionals. Through the Collaborative process, they were able to successfully reach a full agreement in under six months.

My client is extremely grateful she found the Collaborative divorce process and shared with me what she had learned to help going through a painful divorce.

My client found that for her, Collaborative divorce was superior to going to court, as the Collaborative process fosters an environment of creative problem-solving. This is strikingly different than what happens in court where a judge makes decisions in an atmosphere of mud-slinging advocacy.

The team approach was key to providing the parties with the right information, financial analysis, legal advice and emotional support to reach a mutually agreeable conclusion. My client said the time spent on the Collaborative process was productive time in which the parties were directed and engaged with the team to identify issues, define their interests, and the issues at hand.  The Collaborative team members facilitated the couple’s discussions, which led to their finding a path to agreement on all their issues.

The presence of legal counsel, the financial expert and coaches resulted in the parties feeling safe enough to talk to each other directly about their goals, concerns, and needs for their individual futures. They found common ground in wanting what is best for the children.

Collaborative divorce may not suit those people who prefer blissful ignorance. But it is the wise choice for those who choose knowledge, even in a difficult and painful life transition.

 

Shawn Weber Takes California Collaborative Law Leadership Role

CFLGSD member Shawn Weber is the new president of Collaborative Practice California.

Contact: Gayle Lynn Falkenthal, APR / 619-997-2495 or gayle@falconvalleygroup.com

Weber installed as 2015-2016 President of Collaborative Practice California

(SAN DIEGO) – San Diego family law attorney Shawn Weber, CLS-F, member and past

CFLGSD member Shawn Weber is the new president of Collaborative Practice California.

CFLGSD member Shawn Weber is the new president of Collaborative Practice California.

president of the Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego, was installed as president of Collaborative Practice California (CP Cal), the statewide organization for Collaborative Practice groups, at its annual conference in Los Angeles, California on Saturday, April 25.

Individual members of the practice groups included Collaborative lawyers, mental health practitioners, financial specialists, and other professionals. The Collaborative Process is being used in divorce and family law, domestic partnerships, same sex marriages, employment law, probate law, construction and real property law, malpractice, and other civil law areas.

CP Cal’s mission is to unify, strengthen and support the Collaborative Practice community and to increase public awareness of the Collaborative Process throughout California.

“Divorce is a human experience, not just a legal process,” said Weber. “Collaborative Practice through CP Cal represents a significant shift in our approach toward resolving civil disputes including divorce. The litigation model doesn’t have to be the first choice. In a divorce, we help people resolve their issues without harming each other or their children. We help them arrive at options that preserve the long-term interest of the family.

“My goal during my term as CP Cal Board President is to foster communication about the many benefits of Collaborative Divorce and to encourage more legal, financial, and mental health professionals to embrace this philosophy as a possible solution for their clients,” said Weber.

For nearly 20 years, Weber has worked exclusively in the area of family law. In that time, he has proven to be a skilled advocate and attorney, as well as an adroit negotiator and mediator. He is especially skilled at resolving difficult divorce, alimony, child support, custody, and visitation issues in an unthreatening and confidential environment through mediation, with a success rate of 98 percent.

A dolphin instead of a shark, Weber specializes in helping clients reach agreements and avoid the heartache and stress of court. He uses his ingenuity, creativity, warmth and skill to craft better outcomes instead of threats or intimidation, in a process tailored to the client, not the legal system.

Weber started with the Solana Beach based law firm of Brave, Weber & Mack in 1999. Just a few years later, he became the firm’s managing attorney. In this role, he has grown the firm from a small solo practice to a full service firm. In 2006, he also became a Partner and CFO of the firm and is trusted with the firm’s day-to-day financial management.

Weber served on the Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego board from 2005 to 2013 and served as its President in 2009. He is also currently a member the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals. Weber has been a member of the San Diego County Bar Association, Family Law Section since 2001 and is currently a member of the San Diego Family Law Bar Association. He received his law degree at the University of San Diego School of Law, and earned his Bachelor of Arts Degree in Political Science and Germanic Studies at Indiana University. He is the father of five children and lives in El Cajon.

About the Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego

CFLG San Diego’s members work together to learn, practice, and promote collaborative processes for problem solving and the peaceful resolution of family law issues, with an eye toward preserving the emotional, as well as the financial, assets of the family. Its goal is to transform the resolution of family law issues through respectful, collaborative processes that protect the integrity and health of family relationships and eliminate the need for families to resort to litigation.

CFLG is online at www.collaborativefamilylawsandiego.com, and LinkedIn at http://bit.ly/LinkedIn-CFLGSanDiego